Sunday 7 September 2014

BACK TO SCHOOL

A phone call from a friend prompted me to write this post. She was upset after a tussle with her 11 year old daughter about having to wear school uniform. For many youngsters last week's return to school no doubt brought excitement and fear in equal measure, especially for those about to start 'big school'.  Social media was plastered with proud parents showing pictures of uniformed youngsters. However, the school uniform can be one of the most stressful aspects for parents and children alike.

Wearing a daily uniform often coincides with the age at which we often feel self conscious and worry about body image. Fear of social rejection and concern that our appearance is in question may lead to avoiding situations and missing out on fun activities and making new friends. A poor body image often results in low self-esteem and negative thoughts can lead to eating disorders. Bullies often use appearance as a means to direct their jibes and torment, making school life a misery for some pupils.

Add to this the external influences such as magazines, advertising, film, television and the fashion industry, it's no wonder that parents and children find it one of the most challenging aspects of school life.
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So what can we do to help the transition go a little more smoothly? 

It's important to explain to your child that wearing a uniform has many advantages:

  • it removes the decision about what to wear saving time, effort, worry and energy
  • it gives a sense of belonging to a team & community
  • it's a means of identification 
  • it's less expensive in the long run than having to buy a range of clothing
  • it removes some of the peer pressure about following fashion & trends
  • it's the same for everyone irrespective of individual budgets
  • it's practical and usually easy care
  • it gets children used to a dress code and standard of dress which they may encounter in future careers
  • it allows children to get more excited about 'out of school' clothes which gives them the opportunity to express their individuality

Your school will be able to advise you about where and what to buy. High street stores and supermarkets have made school uniforms affordable for everyone and many schools and parent groups have pre loved items for sale. Involve your child in the process and make sure that all items are comfortable to wear. Get them excited about the idea of wearing a uniform, reiterating the advantages. Encourage them to take pride in their clothing and make sure they know the basics of good grooming.

If you have any concerns you should discuss them with your school who will have encountered most issues involving uniforms including bullying. 

If you would like further information about body image and self-esteem take a look at the Dove self-esteem project http://www.dove.co.uk/en/Our-Mission/Dove-Self-Esteem-Project-Get-Involved/default.aspx an excellent resource for schools and parents.

I also offer a workshop for young people that is designed to help them understand that we are all unique and come in different shapes and sizes. It looks at the way in which we are constantly being fed unrealistic and unhealthy images of ideal bodies and faces and it helps them to gain perspective when exposed to these factors. Contact details are at the top of the page.




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